Wednesday, April 19, 2017

6 Ways To Build Your Relationships With Your Kids

Parenting isn’t easy. It’s not enough being your kids taxi driver, 24-hour ATM and most days a sibling boxing referee; you also have to make sure you’ve developed a close, positive relationship with each of your kids.  The secret to being a good parent and raising good kids in a happy home is building that positive, close connection with your children.  Here are six ways you can do that:

1. Communicate with love.

In any relationship, effective communication is key to making the relationship work. Strong, healthy parent-child relationships are developed as good communication skills are developed. And the best way to develop and improve family communication is constantly communicating with love. When you use positive tones and uplifting words rather than yelling, criticizing, and lecturing, you’ll create open and honest lines of communication with your kids. They’ll actually want to talk to you instead of you having to force conversations.

2. Offer empathy.

Empathy is another way to help you better communicate with your kids. In his book, Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child, JohnM. Gottman says, “When parents offer their children empathy and help them to cope with negative feelings like anger, sadness, and fear, parents build bridges of loyalty and affection.” Showing empathy involves being an active listener, allowing for uninterrupted conversations, and not getting upset or defensive. As you do this, your child will feel safe coming to you to for advice and help with any situation and know you’ll jointly solve their problems.

3. Be your kids’ support system.

A child needs to know his parents are there for him no matter what. That even if she’s in the wrong, she can come to you and you’ll be on her side. This also means being her constant cheerleader, whether that’s literally cheering her on at a basketball game or encouraging her that she can pass her upcoming math class or win the science fair.

4. Be present now.

Work, church, hobbies, cooking dinner, cleaning the house, running errands—you have a million different things pulling you in a million different directions. But, you have to make spending time with your kids a priority, ever single day. Kids don’t need a constant teacher or therapist. All they want is to spend time with you, be that reading a book or playing an imaginary game together. No matter how hectic life gets, choose to be present now, and to stay available for whenever they need and want that time with you.

5. Have family dinner together as often as you can.

A simple and very effective way to connect with your kids is over family dinner. This is easy when you have young kids, but as they get older and get involved in more activities, it’s a lot harder to do. Family dinner is a great way to discuss each other’s day and initiate good conversations amongst your entire family. You might not be able to have family dinner every day, but try to as many nights as you can a week, even if it only lasts 10-15 minutes.

6. Take each child out on regular one-on-one outings.

We established the importance of spending time building your relationships through family time. But don’t forget that kids crave and need that one-on-one time with parents as well. Alone time lets you catch up with that child, hear just how he is doing, how he is feeling and provides a more comfortable time for him to open up about himself and his current struggles. Make these one-on-one outings a weekly or monthly habit, whichever time allows. And it doesn’t have to be anything extravagant; it can be as simple as going out to lunch, running to the grocery store together or riding your bikes around the neighborhood.

Enjoy connecting with your children this week!

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  1. These are prefect. I have been reading The Untethered Relationship by Christopher Moon and I've been learning that I have to know myself in the relationships I have in my life and then know those in them with me. This has improved my relationships with my kids in a great way.

    1. That's a very insightful thought. Knowing yourself really does matter. I'll have to check out that book too!


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